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  One of the topics I get so many questions on is, friendships in later life.  There's a lot of you that reach out and are not really sure what to do. Some of you have lost friends over time, or had mom friends that you chatted with at drop off and pick up, but maybe it didn't go anywhere. Some of you were just so focused on mom and wife life that the girlfriend life kind of went to the way side.  There's a lot that can happen to us along the way, as life takes on many different shapes. Growth, moving, some of us even just lose ourselves somewhere along the way, and it's a matter of stepping back and getting yourself back. I think I have been every one of these women along my journey.  I thought I'd share a few tips and tricks to help you find your tribe!  1. Start by Revisiting Your Passions Finding friends with shared interests is key. Whether you’re into yoga, knitting, painting, or 80s rock concerts, there’s a community out there! Re-engaging with hobbies isn’t
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The ALMOST end to Summer!


 Hey Bestie, Welcome Back! 

Yes, antother hiatus taken. Totally unplanned and I vow to get better at showing up here for you! 

So what gives this time? So much. 

I typically sit down to write to you on the weekends. Well, there has been a lot happening and the weekends ended up being either a blur or a total veg time with literally scrolling aimlessly on socials or just in front the tv. It started with mom. She had a toenail that seemed to be maybe in grown. She tried to cut it out herself. It then got inflammed and then there was a small section that turned black. SO scary. 

Well, she's also kind of stubborn. I tried to first get her to go to a podiatrist. She thought that maybe there was a piece still in there that she didn't quite get out. Well, she also has neuropathy and touching her feet is painful. So it went untreated. I then suggested that maybe we just have the people that do her nails try and pull it out. Finally that suggestion seemed a good one. They did so and it really didn't heal or get any better. 

On to the Dr. Somehow, I am unsure how because some of this has just been a blur, we get to amputation. If I am remembering correctly, the infection went to the bone. Amputation 1. She then needs another and a vascular check since there's no healing happening. Vascular surgery, open some veins, another amputation, almost falling at home, a few times in and out of rehab centers. Another rehab center, trying to get her to walk on one foot, and so on. She is currently still in a rehab center and another Dr. appointment will tell us more. Another meeting with the rehab facility on Monday and maybe more answers? Really unsure. To be continued on that front. 

Then we have Todd's dad. There were talks of another visit to California. Then health declining more, do we go? Do we not? If going, it needs to be soon, as dementia is setting in. We're told that rushing to visit isn't probably necessary. Then a few more calls and health decline. Then a call that he is immobile. A call that he has about a week left. Another call and maybe a few weeks?

Do we go? Do we wait? We have a few trips scheduled for August. Of course we would go and forego the first trip and let the kids still go on that one. Which is a family trip to St. Louis to a concert. Then another trip over Labor Day that the kids have scheduled for my 50th. Do we go? Do we not go? Todd decided to not go back to California until the funeral. They are face timing and trying to get a few visits in that way. 

A lot of life, and death, thwarted our way. As life changes, and we get older, the summer navigations do as well. When you're raising kiddos, summer is an amazing time for breaks, vacations, and then back to school!  Or some parents can't wait for school to start again! As your kids grow and move out, summers look a lot different. The focus changes, the days and course of actions change. 

To me, to have not one, but two weekend getaways planned with my family and my sweet daughter-in love, is just magical. I also purposely reserved a large AirBNB house to have everyone under the same roof! I thought about a few hotel rooms and I was like nope. The house is the same price and to have everyone under the same roof again is this mama's dream come true! 

How do you navigate this change? The change of the kids being grown. The change of empty nester life?  How do you navigate family time, keeping in touch? Family dinners? Weekly? Monthly? Luckily our kids are still pretty close in proximity to us. 

Summer is a time of warmth, sunshine, energetic lively activities, the feel of the heat on your body, the fun time of year that most people cherish. That never changes! It's kind of sad when it all comes to an end. End of warmth, water activities, festivals, carnivals, shorty shorts and tank tops. 

The end of summer signals to us the beginning of a new season. When the fall season and all the marches in with it are right around the corner! 

I hope you've had an amazing summer bestie! I hope that you have enjoyed all the wonders of summer! 

I will see you here, well guess what. Not next week because that's the weekend of The Lou trip, but I will be back sooner than this last time! Peace, love and lipstick! 

In you corner and rooting for you~

Your Bestie,

Carri 

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