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Community and Friendship

 



One of the topics I get so many questions on is, friendships in later life. 
There's a lot of you that reach out and are not really sure what to do. Some of you have lost friends over time, or had mom friends that you chatted with at drop off and pick up, but maybe it didn't go anywhere. Some of you were just so focused on mom and wife life that the girlfriend life kind of went to the way side. 

There's a lot that can happen to us along the way, as life takes on many different shapes. Growth, moving, some of us even just lose ourselves somewhere along the way, and it's a matter of stepping back and getting yourself back. I think I have been every one of these women along my journey. 

I thought I'd share a few tips and tricks to help you find your tribe! 

1. Start by Revisiting Your Passions

Finding friends with shared interests is key. Whether you’re into yoga, knitting, painting, or 80s rock concerts, there’s a community out there! Re-engaging with hobbies isn’t just for personal fulfillment—it’s a way to naturally connect with people who love what you love. When you share a passion, conversations flow easier, and friendships form more effortlessly.

Tip: If you’re not sure where to start, try signing up for local classes or events in areas that intrigue you. You might be surprised by who you meet! And hey, if it doesn’t lead to friendships, at least you’ll have fun trying something new.

2. Don’t Be Afraid to Make the First Move

Okay, it might feel awkward, but sometimes you have to be the one to ask, “Want to grab coffee?” Making friends in adulthood takes courage! Remember, everyone else feels just as nervous as you do. So go ahead, put yourself out there. When you find someone you connect with, it’s worth a little vulnerability.

Friendly reminder: If things don’t click with everyone you meet, don’t sweat it! Not every interaction has to lead to best-friendship status. Treat each new connection like a glittery little bonus in your life—and enjoy the sparkle, even if it’s just temporary.

3. Explore Online Communities and Groups

In today’s digital age, there are countless online communities where you can find like-minded people—Facebook groups, Meetup.com, and even hobby-specific forums. These spaces can be golden for building friendships, especially if you’re looking for others who share niche interests. The best part? You can connect in your PJs with a glass of wine if that’s your vibe!

Pro-tip: Look for groups that are local or offer in-person meetups. There’s something extra special about taking that online connection into the real world, where you can laugh together and share experiences that only in-person friendships provide.

4. Get Involved in Your Local Community

Local events, volunteer opportunities, and community centers are fantastic places to meet people. It’s amazing how a shared purpose—whether it’s cleaning up the local park or helping organize a community fundraiser—can create strong bonds quickly. Plus, there’s something truly heartwarming about working toward a common goal with others.

Laugh-worthy idea: If your town has quirky events (cornhole tournaments, anyone?), don’t be afraid to dive in. These things can be ridiculously fun, and you might just meet someone with the same quirky sense of humor.

5. Consider Starting Your Own Group

If you’re not finding the community you’re craving, why not create it? Start small—maybe a monthly book club, brunch club, or a “wine and walks” group for a few neighbors or coworkers. Over time, these gatherings can turn into cherished friendships and a real sense of community. And hey, if glitter and laughter are part of your brand, sprinkle that in! Decorate your meetings, make it fun, and bring people together in a way that feels uniquely you.

Bonus Tip: When creating your group, use social media to invite others. A few posts can help you find those hidden gems in your community who are also craving connection.

6. Be Patient and Open to Surprises

Friendships don’t always spark instantly. Sometimes, the strongest connections come from people you’d least expect or take longer to grow. Remember, it’s about quality over quantity. Cherish each new connection and allow it to unfold naturally. After all, the beauty of later-in-life friendships is that they’re based on who we really are—no pressure to impress or pretend.

Wrapping It Up with a Little Glitter ✨

Building friendships later in life is a beautiful, sometimes challenging, but totally worthwhile journey. Remember to approach it with a sprinkle of humor, an open heart, and, of course, a touch of glitter. True friends make life sparkle, and it’s never too late to add more of that light to your world. So go out there, be your fabulous self, and watch the magic happen.

Let me know how it goes! 

In your corner and rooting for you! 

Your Bestie~
Carri 

www.thebubblybossbabe.com

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